Turning Pain into Power
By Kate McMahon
Photography by Rachel Ahern
You attract what you are. Everything that you experience you have brought it upon yourself through the power of the universe, but what about those horrible things that happen you don’t deserve? Manifesting and the law of attraction play a huge part in this. You can positively or negatively manifest anything you want into your life by believing you already have it. In my experience so many positive manifestations have come through. The reason for all the goodness in my life today is because of manifestation but as unfortunate as it is, negative events can come about from subconsciously manifesting it too. That’s why it's very important to learn that the more power you give to thinking about a bad situation, the more power you give to the universe to make it a reality.
You need to be careful because the universe can't determine what thoughts you have are good or bad so when you project this situation you're worried about out into the universe along with all your emotions, it becomes a reality. Your worry becomes a reality. This is where control needs to come into play, and I am only learning how to control now.
When horrible things happen, there is a whirlwind of emotions that are released with it. That’s how we respond. We get very quiet, or we get very loud, but it's important to learn how to control your emotions before your emotions control you, and it's easy to let that control slip from underneath you. It happens to me at the best of times, but I'm a strong believer that the control can be learnt over time no matter what pace. It can be developed.
Lots of things can unravel your emotions. Love is the best at messing up your emotions in my opinion. You have probably heard the saying ‘you should love yourself before you fall in love with another’. I don’t believe that’s the case. I think when someone stops loving you, that’s when you begin to love yourself even more because that’s all you have left. As unfortunate as it is, I believe the more heartbreak and pain you go through, the more control you gain and the more you begin to see that you don’t need another person. It's great to have another by your side, devoted to you, sharing everything together so willingly, but it's so easy to attach yourself to somebody, and it's even easier to get lost with them. If that period comes to an end, yes you will have lost something significant, but there is a big gain: you will gain that little bit more control. It’s important to develop control for when grief arises. When I say ‘control’, I mean almost like a coping mechanism because no matter how hard you try to avoid it, humans can't avoid grief as it is a part of life.
My coping mechanism is running. When negative things happen in my life, I run. It's like I use all the negative energy and hurt inside me and turn it into power. A power so powerful that you can literally run through the roughest winds. The other night, I was upset over a recent heartbreak, so I did the only thing that made my mind feel normal through the confusion and turmoil. I ran. The time of my run was still the same but, in my head and my body, I felt as though it was the fastest I had ever ran. It is crazy how much power that hurt gave me for just a four-kilometre run. I didn’t cry again that night after my run. I did not shed one tear as I felt too powerful. All the tears had left my body, that is until the next day, but the tears were fewer this time, and they will begin to get less and less as I use that control of turning the pain into power.
